Iâm a big believer in being myself but sometimes, it can really help to get through life more easily and to get what you want if you adapt in a certain way so you become more likeable. So first of all, whatâs a likeable person and what are their traits? Likeable people are often considered down-to-earth, open, authentic, interested, self-deprecating, trustworthy, and a bunch of other things. Usually, theyâre warm and emotionally stable people that others want to be around. So are you a likeable person? The first thing to consider is that if you think about this question, youâre probably too hard on yourself. Four university studies found that people often underestimated how much their conversation partner liked them. So youâre probably already more likeable than you think you are, however, there is always room for improvement. 11 Easy Ways To Become More Likeable1.Be Yourself!I know itâs a super cliche answer but sometimes, the person you want to be doesnât line up with the person you actually are. The perfect example is social media; the way people portray themselves on Instagram or in Facebook rarely matches the real-life circumstances. We spend a lot of time and energy trying to get people to like who you want to be rather than who you actually are, you may come off as insecure and unreal. Often, people can sense this and they want to know the real genuine authentic you, not the idealized version. So let them see the real you even though at times that might seem embarrassing, it really helps to increase your likability because people can relate better with you and they donât put you on a pedestal that is just an ideal of everything that they canât have because obviously, they know about the things that are not perfect in their own lives and they like to see it in others. 2. Learn Great Conversation StartersOther people will be relieved that they donât have to start the conversation. Those could be things like âDid you choose your profession or did your professions choose you?â or maybe âWhat makes you laugh the most?â. Having a few good starter questions ready every time before you attend a social event will make you more secure and you will probably end up having more good conversations. It will also avoid awkward moments and people will thank you for it because they know when they talk to you, itâs never embarrassing or strange. 3. Give Out ComplimentsMost people think a lot more about themselves than others do think about them. So they may put a lot of effort into a hairstyle, their outfits, or the way they dress but others wonât even notice it. So by picking up on something that is special about a person and by complimenting them on it makes you instantly more likeable. Why? Well, you actually stand out from the crowd because you noticed something others donât and it flatters the other person and honestly, who doesnât want to be flattered? That being said, itâs best not to comment on body parts or ideally, things that people canât change anything about. Instead, compliment them on something they do or they did. 4. Accept Compliments GracefullyOften, when people are complimented, they donât know how to respond. They try to diminish the compliment. Instead, you should accept it gracefully. What does it mean specifically? All you need to do is to say thank you and smile. 5. Show Some Self-Deprecating HumorThe perfect way to utilize humor to become more likeable without distancing others is to use self-deprecating humor. So what does it mean? Just make fun about yourself. That means, maybe share weird things about you or share a time when you look like a loser or when you did something that looks really stupid. I know it seems weird and hard but by doing that and getting other people to laugh about it, they will instantly like you more. Another good way to add self-deprecating humor is to compare yourself to others so you can say âOh wow youâre just twenty-two when youâre running your own business; when I was 22, my mom did my laundry for meâ. That way, you put yourself in a light that lets others shine and that makes you instantly more likeable even though you may feel like you look like a loser. In my opinion, a master of self-deprecating humor is Ellen DeGeneres. She utilizes this technique all the time in her show and people love her so next time you watch that show, pay attention to it and you will see how she utilizes it to become instantly more likeable. 6. Listen!So far, we all talked about active steps you can take but one of the easiest way to become more likeable is to really in genuinely listen to what other people say. No, if youâre just waiting for the other person to finish before you can give your reply, youâre not actively listening. Actively listening means that you comprehend what theyâre saying that you repeat what theyâre saying and that you later follow up with a question pertaining to it so they really know that you listened and also cared. So always try to paraphrase what people said in a quick way without going into too much detail. You can also have follow-up questions that show that you comprehended what was said and you just keep the conversation going. In general, people like to feel like theyâre heard and understood and by actively listening, you achieve exactly that. An even bigger step is not just to listen but to act on what someone just said. 7. Ask QuestionsIt goes slightly into the same vein as the active listening but more questions keep a conversation going and the more smart questions you ask, the more understood and heard the other person feels and the more they feel taken care of and comfortable in your presence. 8. Be VulnerableMost people engage in small talk but small talk doesnât allow you to really be vulnerable and itâs not well-suited to get to know someone. Mostly, itâs just tedious and boring and frankly, it can be much harder than having a genuine conversation about things that actually mean something to people. So try to stop yourself from engaging in small talk and get real. That means you can be a leader in a conversation who dives deeper first without waiting for the other person to expose themselves or show a vulnerability. Of course, this has to be a gradual process. If you tell people about your financial problems the first time they meet you, they think of you as being weird. So a good starter question that I always use is âWhat do you do when you donât work?â. Most people have the impulse to tell me what their job is because thatâs what they usually hear but then it usually takes a second for them to realize Iâm actually asking about their passions and you can see a little smile, theyâll light up and they tell me more about the things they like to do. Now, that is a first step to create a connection, to create something where they feel they can share with me and usually, they have an interest in it so they donât get tired of talking about it. Once weâre at that step, you can ask deeper and deeper questions and that way, you have a conversation that is quite meaningful and both people will walk away without feeling like they wasted their time and that they were bored. Always keep in mind, people love to talk about their passions and not so much about their insecurities yet everyone has them and by opening up and sharing your struggles and your insecurities, you become instantly more relatable and thus likeable. 9. Minimize ComplainingWe all feel like we want to complain every once in a while and thatâs okay, however, if you complain constantly, you carry a negative aura with you and others donât want to be around you because you just bring them down or make them feel bad. So what if you just have a natural negative outlook in life and thatâs simply who you are? Well, in that case, I suggest you try to flip it around and try to see the positive things and frankly, if sometimes thatâs too hard and you canât find anything nice to say, itâs better not to say anything at all. 10. Make Everyone Feel IncludedIf you have a group conversation, thereâs usually someone who speaks a lot more than someone else. If you pick up on that and you notice that someone is being quiet or just alone, it really pays to loop them back into the conversation by asking them a question. 11. Embrace A Positive AttitudeIt makes sense to embrace a positive attitude because other people will like to be around you because it makes them feel positive. Usually, positive people uplift other people and donât drain their energy. Sometimes, just reminding yourself of that is all it takes to be more positive. Finally, itâs only fair to acknowledge that people have their own will and chances are some people will never like you and thatâs okay. In those cases, itâs best not to focus on things you canât change but the things you can do. If you apply these eleven tips in your social life, I guarantee you, you will be more liked. So what are your secret tips to become more likeable? Please share with us in the comments and give us a thumbs up.Easy Ways to Be More Likeable published first on https://medium.com/@CostumeCorner via Tumblr Easy Ways to Be More Likeable
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I lived my life in Europe and now a global citizen in fashion. I have attended the American University in Texas and hold master degree in Media & Communications. I have also spent 4 years of formal training in clothing and fashion. I love travelling around the world and being in different artistic environments has helped me discover more and more about my passions which is fashion. Personal Links |